Updated: Jan 29
I have been a serial dieter for longer that I care to admit and tried almost every diet out there.
Several years ago I made a decision to rejoin Weight Watcher's and finally lose weight - for good.
I reached my goal and kept it off for a year and a half, only to put it all back on again when my life was in turmoil. It makes sense - we most often revert back to old habits and patterns when under stress.
With my 60th birthday right around the corner, I have been researching what it takes to lose weight and more importantly keep it off.
Here's 3 things I learned during my first week of 6 Months to 60!
1. It's not about the food.
For many of us, food has been the main focus while losing weight - to the point where it's all we think about. An acquaintance mentioned that her success in losing weight has been because she didn't focus on food. The emphasis was on the rest of her life. She plans her meals and then moves her mind and body away from food.
Mind and body are free from the ups and downs of a diet roller coaster that is exhausting to ride. The law of attraction says to place our attention on our success; diets create a deficit mindset that sets us up for failure.
2.The Power of Habit.
This is a great book about, you guessed it, Habits! So much of what we do in life is based upon the habits we've developed. These habits are embedded in our neural pathways, which is partly why losing weight is hard.
How to Change a Habit?
To change a habit, such as putting your focus on other things in your life instead of food, one must forge a new neural pathway to override the original habit.
Change what you do repeatedly - the cue (food) and reward (losing weight or maintaining it) remain the same; how you respond to the cue and get to the reward makes all the difference.
3. All or nothing thinking.
How often have you decided to start your diet again tomorrow because you "fell off the wagon" today? Or, you only have 30 minutes to exercise so why bother - your exercise program takes an hour. These are examples of all or nothing thinking.
We become boxed in, chained to a way of thinking, feeling, and acting that leads to us believing and feeling that we are failures.
The lesson is to develop a flexible mindset and ditch the all or nothing thinking, set realistic goals, and create action plans that will take us step by step closer to where we want to be. Practicing each step daily, and having a backup plan for when life gets in the way, is key to our success.
Instead of beating ourselves up about something, wouldn't it make more sense to be self-compassionate and ask ourselves what we could do differently next time or be curious about how we are feeling? Focus on your self-care and the things and people who matter in your life - ditch the diet mentality.
I would love to partner with you on this journey and help you reach your goals for a healthy relationship with food and your body. Connect with me for a complimentary call and chat about how we might work together so that you can Life the Life You Crave.