It’s not always easy being me.
I am generally easy going and often described as anything but high maintenance. And yet, I’ve sometimes found myself to be a challenge.
Take, for example, those times in the past, when I would say yes to dinner at a friend’s home and then regret the decision, seconds after accepting. It wasn’t because of the friends or because I didn’t want to see them and have a good time.
No, the objections had nothing to do with anyone other than me. I kept them quiet, worried that if I shared them, I’d stop being invited or they’d think I was too much work. The last thing I wanted was to be a nuisance or to create unnecessary work for others.
And so, I kept these thoughts to myself.
By now you’re probably wondering what was so terrible that I would spend days ruminating and stressing about the upcoming dinner.
As silly as it sounds to me now, I worried about what we were going to eat.
Round and round in circles I’d go, asking myself these questions:
Could I stick to my diet or would I end up quitting?
Would I have enough willpower to last the whole evening?
Would I present myself as an exemplary dieter only to find myself bingeing when I got home, swallowing the stress and anxiety I’d created trying to be “good”?
Could I stop myself from going crazy with carbs and wine and say no to desert?
Could I handle another broken promise to myself that this time it would be different?
Ultimately, it didn’t really matter whether I was dieting or not, I was afraid to eat.
Worried about eating too much and the “wrong” foods.
Worried about eating too much and not caring whether I ate the “wrong” foods.
I couldn’t win. It was a constant battle in my mind before, during and after an event that was meant to be fun and nourishing.
There were plenty of other times my inner rebel or diet gremlin derailed me:
Holidays would have been far more exciting had I not worried about wearing shorts or a bathing suit.
Movies would have been stress free without agonizing over whether to have popcorn or not. Adding butter took me to a whole other level of angst.
Weddings could have been so much better had I not felt self-conscious dressing up.
Intimacy would have been far more pleasurable if I’d felt comfortable in my body.
Exercise could have been amazing if I’d moved my body because it felt good instead of exercising to burn calories.
The interesting thing about all of this, was that it didn’t matter what size my body was, it was always the same. I was relentless and obsessed.
Creating the Relationship You Want with Food and Your Body
Unfortunately, it takes a wee bit more work to change a lifetime of body dissatisfaction, emotional eating, shame, insecurity, and a fear of food.
Anxiety and stress play such a huge role in so many aspects of our lives and food just happens to be a convenient and easy way to manage these feelings.
Think about where these feelings show up for you:
A disparaging thought that begins with a look in the mirror.
A belief that takes you down the path of “I’m not good enough.”
A feeling of shame that rumbles throughout your body.
An offhand remark from someone that haunts you for days or even years.
Seeing yourself in a picture with your friends that has you going down the comparison rabbit hole.
A memory from your childhood that sets you running to the cupboard or fridge for a bag of Oreo cookies.
As someone who’s changed her relationship with food and her body, I know that stress and anxiety lie at the root of it all.
So, lovely soul, freedom from all of this is yours with Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT.
It's a powerful, yet simple, tool that is a blend of Eastern Chinese Medicine and modern psychology. We often refer to it as acupuncture without needles. It is a mind/body energy technique that works magic when we tap gently on acupressure points on the body.
If you’re not familiar with EFT, your first instinct might be to think that it’s just another gimmick. EFT calms the nervous system and allows anxiety and stress to slink away as quickly as it appeared.
I used it to manage my anxiety and stress as I prepared for a stage performance last year. (https://www.joanridsdel.com/post/how-to-beat-your-fears-with-courage-on-the-stage-of-life).
Tapping on eight acupressure points shifts the energy (stress and anxiety) trapped within the body. This in turn allows us to think more clearly and make better decisions.
Limiting beliefs about weight, size and shape, are transformed.
Cravings dissolve in one session.
Unconscious blocks from the past are released.
Emotional eating, binge eating, food addiction, and body dissatisfaction are transformed.
Would you say no to something that can help you find the freedom you’ve been searching for?
What would it be worth to you if you could stop devouring bags of chips and swallowing your feelings?
How would it feel to create a peaceful relationship with food and your body?
EFT has been life-changing for me. I know it can be for you as well.
Schedule a Call (complimentary) to chat with me about EFT and let’s get you started on your Journey to Creating a Peaceful Relationship with Food and Your Body!